Happy Friday, everyone. As we move full force into the new year, remember that perfection in the home is an illusion. Be gentle with yourselves as you tackle your home projects this year. Mantra #5 reminds us of that.
We can easily get caught up in the idea that our homes should be perfect. That everything needs to be perfectly curated and designed before we can truly start to enjoy living in it. That a perfect home equals a perfect life.
But perfection is an illusion. And this need for perfection can leave us feeling perpetually unsatisfied and unable to enjoy home just as it is. When we try to create spaces that are perfect, we miss the whole point of home. Home is about the imperfections. The imperfections tell stories. They give home a soul.
It's important to ask ourselves why we need to be perfect. Who are we trying to be perfect for?
We may be driven by the need to impress others, and an attempt to avoid judgement from our family, friends and neighbors. We might be afraid of showing our vulnerable side. What does an imperfect home say about us? Not good things, we think. Or we may have some serious control issues. Having a perfect home means we have it all together. But let's be real - none of us have it all together. And none of us have a perfect home. And that's a good thing.
The question bears asking, what is "perfect" anyway? How do we define perfection in the home? Is it a home with zero dust? Good luck with that. Is it a home that is decorated only with all the latest trends from a big-box furniture store? Where's the soul there? Is it a home where everything is exactly in its place, all day, every day, 365 days a year? That's not a home - that's a museum.
The truth is, we need the imperfections. The imperfections are what makes home special to us. When we embrace the imperfections in our homes, we also embrace the imperfections in ourselves. We become more accepting and more open-hearted. And our homes become filled with more love.